??? Change !!!

Why is change so difficult? Why do we find it very difficult to change even when what we are doing isn't beneficial to us or anyone else?

We find it hard to leave or cut away from a "bad" relationship, a painful and an unhealthy workplace, an unhealthy lifestyle, a negative attitude that we know is pulling us back every time we want to go forward. Why?

The fact is,  we all know every decision comes with an action (or actions). Every action has its own consequences - it can be positive or it can be negative (and at the end of the day it all comes down to how you define things). 

We are afraid to cut off, to stop certain behaviour because what we tend to see most times in the process of cutting away from these relationships or behaviour are the things we are going to lose. We don't see the long term benefits - we don't want to prime our brains to see that cos we let our emotions take control when it should be taking the back sit.

Now, for instance, when people think of cutting off from a harmful relationship, what they tend to see most times is what they will be losing - a friend, a friendship that they already used to (meaning they are losing) and no one wants to be a loser. However, if one decides to see it as an opportunity to gain more friends, become more friendly to others, it reduces the losing mindset (that always set in place when there is a break up).

Whether change is hard or change is easy, it all boils down to you. You are the one responsible for change in your life. You don't have to be fixed in life. You can change if you want to. Your life circumstances can change if you want it to. It all comes down to if you are willing to take the step and work through the process. 

We spend a lot of time trying to know something or someone. Sometimes hours, other times days, or weeks or months and even years to trying to understand concepts and the people we are interested in, and all of a sudden we are told what we used to know, what we have spent a whole lot of time trying to know is no longer true - we have to change. We are realized that the person we have been so emotionally attached to is no longer suitable for us. It can be hard sometimes, but the fact is, the life we live now is nicknamed "uncertainty". There is no certainty in life. Change itself is uncertain cos that's the nature of change.