The Draining Relationships

People are scared to leave abusive relationship or abusive situation they found themselves. These relationships can be in any form - romantic, career, mere friendships, etc. 


These are situations, these are relationships that they know that is abusive, not beneficial to them, holding them back. These relationships are drowning them, exhaustive emotionally, materially, financially, career-wise, investment wise but still they found themselves in those relationships trying to make it work, trying to do this or that believing that things will work out while the other party is just busy enjoying the flow of the relationship.


They found themselves doing all they can to make it work - apologising unnecessarily, saying things to make the other party believe in them and their authenticity in the relationship but at the end of the day your 80 percent to make the relationship work is countered by the 80 percent to make the relationship not work provided by the other party.


Still these person keep doing the same thing. They are still in the unproductive relationship, unproductive way of living, wasting their lives and their emotions and feelings and energy on a relationship that if they have focused their energy and enthusiasm on some other things, it would have yielded something big and better and fulfilling.


Some relationships are draining. Others are exhaustive. Some others are distractive, while others are very unfulfilling and yet we know all these cos we see ourselves every day, every time not yielding what we have planned for it. We see ourselves not making the progress we should be making, not having the things we should be having and we REFUSED to change.


Why are we doing this to ourselves? Why are we doing this to our destinies. Why are we doing this to our careers, our children, those looking unto us? WHY?


You know why? Cos we are scared? We are scared of what will happen. It's not like we don't know what we happen or we can't handle it but we just don't want it to happen even though we know, it will change our lives for good but we are scared of change.


We need to start refining our lives

We need to start taking control of our lives

We need to start measuring our lives

We need to start measuring the productiveness of our relationships and not just focusing on that thing we call "love" when it is just a huge infatuation.

If he or she loves you indeed they will be interested in your growth and your upliftment and fulfilment and if they are not get them out of your mind.

Do something else with your mind.

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