Life Starts When You Take Responsibility

Responsibility 

They say the future belongs to the youth but they have to start claiming that now. We are so carried away by life and childhoodness as youth believing that life is supposed to work based on our plan (without working for it). We are supposed to have good government without us acting and being good, we are supposed to move around with the best cars (provided by our family), we are supposed to have everything ordered for us online and it will arrive at the speed of light on our table. This is not reality for most of us – because we have shifted the responsibility of our lives to someone, to circumstances and to the world.
Our lives start when we start taking responsibilities – responsibility for our actions and for our inactions, responsibility for our lives and our environment, responsibility for thoughts and our outcomes. Responsibility is simply a duty, an obligation and it entails being accountable. Neale Donald Walsch puts the concept of being responsible in a different way:
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”
The moment you realize that it all depends on you and not your parents, or your aunties and uncles or your friends and compassions, or those wealthy people you intentionally or inadvertently blame, or the economy of the world, that is when your life begins, that is when you start living a serious life and it starts with a sense of responsibility and that responsibility lies within you and nothing else and nobody else.
Like a great, Jocko Willink rightly says:
“Extreme Ownership.
Leaders must own everything in their world.
There is no one else to blame”

Good Reasons or Success

We are so good at blaming. We are so good at justifying why it did not come out good. There is no blame game in life. There is no excuse. You can only output two things in life – “Good Reasons” or “Success”. Is either you succeed or you provide good reasons and we are so good at proving good reasons – even when there isn’t any, we search and research and fine-tune it and make the reasons good enough for our failures, our ineptitude, for being late or for anything we don’t want. Once you take away the good reasons behind why you fail, why you are not producing at your best, why you are always late, then you get yourself liberated and you will forge ahead in life. Start owing your life and your destiny by being responsible for it. It starts there – just a step and another step and another step and each of these steps is a decision.

Prevent Excuses and Good Reasons

As much as I can, I prevent excuses and good reasons – I work towards that. I am supposed to be in a place by 4pm and for whatever reason I get there by 4:30pm and the reason was good enough for me being late – I think personally, by my own standard, I have failed myself.

Growing up used to be very irresponsibility and had a good reason for that. The truth is that, if you don’t know anything and you don’t know that you don’t know, that is a huge problem. This means that you have not even start to look at the direction of having a solution yet. You are lost! You don’t have to argue – I tell you I used to do it a lot. I was so good good at being ignorant without knowing it – not even an iota of that – I was good at being unteachable without realizing that is eating me up.

Reasons Why We Don't Realize That  We are Ignorant:

  • We are not willing to face the truth about ourselves - we are not ready to face reality and we do not want to be ready.
  • We are living among liars - those around us are not telling us the truth and if they are, we are not working towards learning.
  • Maybe because we are still achieving result – comparatively or moderately good result without realizing that we can achieve 10x or even 100x what we are achieving now.
  • We are just want to be lazy – we don’t want to put their brain into use
  • And some of us, because of fear – we don’t want to change their lives. 

Start today by being Responsible. Stop blaming anyone or anything. Be teachable and stay humble looking for every opportunity to learn and gain knowledge. Take responsibility as a leader, as a kid, as a teacher, as a student, as a human and I bet you your life will be greatly transformed.

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